Any Grey’s Anatomy or Scandal fans out there? Confession, I am not one of them. I mean, I might be. I just haven’t seen an episode yet.
However, I recently read Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes (not an affiliate link). She’s the woman who created Grey’s Anatomy, Scandal, oh and Private Practice too.
The premise of the book is that despite all of her success in TV land (or Shondaland, as her company is actually called), she wasn’t happy. In fact, she calls herself miserable.
Shonda decided that the source of her misery was that her knee jerk answer in most situations was, “No.” Now obviously, as a woman who’s achieved quite a lot, she said yes to some things. However, she had serious social anxiety and passed up show biz parties, PR moments (Jimmy Kimmel, Oprah) and speaking engagements.
So she made up her mind to say yes to “anything and everything” that scared her. For a whole year.
It’s a very personal journey that she goes through as she learns what’s most important to her. And I think that’s the key lesson from the book.
“Happiness comes from living as you need to, as you want to. As your inner voice tells you to. Happiness comes from being who you actually are instead of who you think you are supposed to be.”
For Shonda, she’d gone so deep into her comfort zone that she was actually uncomfortable. For me, I’m trying to get a little closer to my comfort zone–working from my home more often, making time to go hiking with my dog, focusing on being “present” with my husband, coming up with cool communications for people and things that matter to me.
That’s some of the reasons for 129 Communications.
What’s most important to you? Are you doing what you want to do? Need help listening to that inner voice? Contact me. I’d love to work with you and help you find your own “Year of Yes.”